Even though they were both on board with the decision I still reminded them that they would soon be leaving home, having their own lives and will be even happier that I have someone to share my later years with.

Maybe, if you presented the scenario to your daughter in this way she might understand that you are not only her mother but a WOMAN too and this man will be there to love and care for her when her children cannot.

My oldest (daughter) absolutely refuses to accept that her mother wants to remarry. My other children have happily accepted our engagement.

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My fiancee’ has adult children and they are very happy that their father and I are getting married. My dad never remarried or even dated and he was a fairly young man when my mom died.

We were origninally planning on getting married this summer, however we have postponed the wedding hoping that if my daughter has a little more time, she will accept it more. Later in life he was very lonely and thankfully he had his children, but we all had our own lives and interests.

It must be heartbreaking not to be able to see the grandchildren, but I cannot see that you both can do any more.

Time may help, but meanwhile I hope you and your husband find strength in each other, and in your love.

It seems they would rather have their father live alone in some nursing home then live a full and productive life with someone who loves and adores him and will be there at the end of his life.

Despite being a paraplegic, we go kaying, biking, traveling and more yet they treat him as if he is already dead (because of me) and rarely communicate with him. If they do not send him cards, I don’t know what I will do. Dear Jill, When my husband first introduced me to his children in Aug/Sept, 2003 they were very accepting of us and our pending marriage when we got engaged in mid-Nov to marry in March, 2004. One, for them it was as if they were going back to their mother’s funeral.

One last thing I think is also a factor is that before I met him, he did very little in the way of physical activities. I’ve introduced him to kayaking and biking and other fun things to do which he never did with his own children as they were growing up. Because I am very active, I introduced him to my activities which we found out he can do.

Not because he didn’t want to, but because he didn’t know he could. Now he wants to do these things with his children and grandchildren but I think they are jealous, or angry at him because he never did these things with them.

I am trying to plan a fun day, but it will be very difficult. Dont be too proud to pick up the phone (or write if you would feel easier about this) I wonder if they know the grief they are causing their dad as well as you. Since we knew we’d each be moving from our respective houses into a new retirement home (when completed), I suggested he spend his last Christmas with his children and grandchildren in the family home without me, so that they may enjoy one last time together as the ‘old’ Joyner family. Two, they had not accepted the finality of her death until that Christmas – she wasn’t there.