Again in time you can re-add them back to your phone but in the early days, weeks or even months, keeping them out of the phone can be a wise move, in order to resist that all-consuming desire for contact!EMAILS: Similarly, if you can bring yourself to DELETE all of the old emails between you, then do it.

For example, avoid discussing your former relationship, your new partners, or anything else that you know to be a potentially volatile subject.

Resist every urge inside of you to ask those questions – most of the time the answers hurt!

ED NOTE: You can always use a website like to vent anonymously too.

This is something that both men and women can, and need, to do.

It’s a way of staying in the relationship even when the other person isn’t physically there anymore.

After six months or so have passed, if you decide you want to, then you can add them back to your buddy list and allow them to see you again on theirs.

It is incredibly cathartic and it just may stop you from saying things to your EX you may later regret.

I highly recommend writing letters to your EX that you don’t actually send.

Box them up and put them in a closet or somewhere equally out of sight.

I have known some people to have ceremonial burnings, but that may be a bit drastic, and after you’re calmer and have healed, you may even regret it.

If that seems to drastic, at least put them onto a disc or burn them CD, (stick them in the Cloud, e.g. BUDDY LISTS: As in number two, remove and block them from your buddy lists.