ok topface comdatingtypeall - Dating boss
Around four months ago a colleague I work with, let’s call her Naomi, started dating our boss. That was fine because it didn’t really affect me or the rest of the staff. Two weeks ago our boss took Naomi to a dinner meeting with our biggest client.
That said though, even those in it for the most admirable of reasons probably have to admit that the challenge and the 'forbidden' nature of the whole thing makes it all the more appealing. Well once you're hooked you're hooked and there's probably no going back, so instead of reflecting on the difficulties involved any further let's look at solutions.
Here we'll have a good look at some of the ways that you can make dating your boss a little simpler once you've snagged them.
In other words it's far from easy to date your boss but then again that's probably the very reason it's something we all want so much.
Of course there's also the chance that you are just in love with your boss and they are just a great partner for you, and the fact that they are in a position of power over you can also be somewhat alluring.
Being in a relationship with your boss is something that can upset your colleagues if they think it means you are getting preferential treatment or just trying to get a raise.
Try and keep your relationship below the radar then whether or not you are 'allowed' to be in the relationship.
Move Departments: If you aren't willing to leave your job just yet then this can make life trickier.
Even if you allowed to date your boss and your colleagues don't know other complications can arise such as if your colleagues start talking about your boss and expect you to join in, or if your partner starts asking you to report back on your friends leaving you in a position where you loyalties are divided and tested.
You also need to be aware of the 'reaction formation' defence mechanism in which you can be overly harsh towards your partner in a bid not to be overly forgiving.
Just try your best to act normal and don't hold anything that transpires in the office against them outside of it.
To avoid these situations then you should transfer to another branch or another department whenever possible so that you are no longer dealing with your boss directly. Make sure though that you discuss this with your partner so it doesn't come across as hurtful that you're moving away from them.